I Know Enough – To “Be”
Too many times we are told in life that we need to do more,
make more money, take more trainings, grow our businesses, become well-known
and we often lose sight of what is important. Facing a chronic illness can
definitely change one’s perspective on what really matters. This past year I
found myself holding back from various trainings, meetings and conferences as I
needed to conserve my energy while also realizing that I have the information I
need. But in the process, something else shifted. A realization that I had been
busy doing so many other things, that I was missing the most precious moments
of allowing myself to “Be”. To fully enjoy connecting with nature and spending
time with friends and family without having to “Do” something. Allowing myself
to “Be” has given me space to receive and the insights I am receiving each day
(especially on the days when I am among the trees) blows my mind.
I have been getting a sense that something really needed to
shift in how I run my business, but I wasn’t really clear what I was sensing
and why and then the message came through from a friend’s post on Facebook.
Kara McKay I know from the dance community and I’d like to share some of what she
wrote as there was so much truth in it for me:
“Remember a time
(maybe it was before your time) when a person could ask for help or advice and it
was human decency to help each other out? There was even a time (yes even in
white people history) when we did things like barn raising, bringing food to
sick families, listening when our friends’ hearts were breaking. It wasn’t labeled
communism, it was community. We got together to play music, dance and eat. It
wasn’t labeled a workshop or event that had a price tag on it. We are humans being
friends creating fun experiences together. There was immense profit in that.”
“I’m exhausted by
branding and selling. I’m totally over it! I’ve peeked behind the curtain too
many times to see the chasm between the personal growth and development stage
personalities and the real struggling, stressed out actors, pretending to live
what they give. I’ve seen the seminar junkies going further into debt hooked on
the next high and promise of health, wealth and happiness.”
“What I want most is
to be of service. If I can help, I will. If not, I won’t. In the meantime, I
can honestly say life is much richer without hours of marketing, branding,
selling, striving, attempting to make a name for myself.”
“Do what truly makes your
heart happy, most of the rest of it is bullshit.” – Kara McKay
I Have Enough –
There it was – the truth. The truth that so much of the work
I had been doing was focused on marketing my business rather than serving my
students, clients and community. I’ve always enjoyed creating community. Seven
years ago, I began organizing monthly neighborhood BBQ’s and ladies’ nights and
now we gather for camping trips and more. Each person has taken on more responsibility
in organizing our gatherings over the years. We’ve been there to support each
other with meals when someone has been ill or had a new baby, we’ve watched
each other kids and even helped with moving. And in December, many of them showed
up to help us tear out our hardwood floors, put in cork, place trim and move
stuff back in within less than a week so we could be home for Christmas. In our dance community,
this has also been occurring on the sidelines with people going for walks after
class, social gatherings and helping each other in moments of need. I’d love to
see this continue to expand.
I am Enough – Value
I’m often told, you need to value the work you do and your
prices should reflect this value. I’ve struggled with this as I don’t want
money to be a reason people don’t get the help they need. Especially in the
chronic illness world in which many people have depleted their bank accounts
and are unable to work. Why is it that we attach money to our value? Isn’t our
contribution to helping others enough value. If the work I did was really about
the money, I would be working in the hospital getting paid at least $60,000 for
part time work. Instead last year my business net worth was closer to $8000 and
the most I’ve ever made is my business is about $10,000. Yet I have worked
harder than I had getting paid $60,000. The value I see from doing the work is
the transformation and healing that occurs in my students and clients and the
love, encouragement and support I receive in return as their guide and teacher.
I could spend $4000 – $6000 to hire a business coach who
will help me brand myself, package my services and communicate my message. I
could create more Facebook ads and build my email list. I could spend countless
hours trying to market myself and attend a variety of networking meetings, but
Where is my purpose in all of this? What is my purpose? My
purpose is to help others heal. To shine a light on the truth of why people are
sick and how to get better. How is spending my time, $ and energy serving that
purpose when I could be focusing on serving you and helping people heal. Yes, I
know, you can’t help people if they don’t know you exist. But why is it I was
doing quite well before I decided to create an official business? I know there are
basic things I will always need to do for my business, but not at the capacity
I was doing prior to my illness. It’s time to stop being distracted by the “fluff”
and get real.
I am Here To Serve
I have enough.
I am enough.
I know enough.
I have a roof over my head.
I have running water.
I have electricity.
I have healthy organic food for my plate.
I have a husband who financially supports us.
I have friends.
I have family.
I have community.
What more do I need? Nothing, but the desire to help others to
see the light so they can heal and transform whether it is through my Nia
classes, support groups or health consults.
I am here to serve you and with that means, I will be
shifting my business model. I am fortunate to have low overhead costs and a
husband who supports our family. The reality is I do have some basic business
operating expenses and we don’t live in tribes of 100 people like we used to.
But it doesn’t mean that money needs to be a barrier for people to reclaim
their health and live a fulfilled life.
From now on, all my Moving To Heal classes are donation-based. You pay what you want/can afford when and as often as you want. You can even attend class for free and when possible find ways to serve the community. This will continue for as long as it serves all of us. My only request is that you share our community with others so more people can receive the healing gifts that each and every one of us provide.
New Health Conscious Community
Healthy boundaries are essential to supporting this change and
I will be outlining more details to come in this regard as well as some general
donation-based guidelines. But there are some general guidelines we all can
abide by to continue to keep this community safe.
- Be accountable for your own healing
- Respect others
- Support and encourage others
- Show compassion
- Come from a place of love
- Be willing to “fall” and let others catch you
- Be vulnerable and open
- Be willing to change and think outside the box
- Be mindful of others’ time and energy
- Be honest
I am so grateful to have the opportunity to create a safe
community for us to gather and support each other. If there is anything I can
do to serve you, please reach out to me at any time. To many new possibilities!
206-697-2273 or email@example.com